How do you know when you love someone?

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How Do You Know When You Love Someone?

I used to believe that love was a light switch. Something flicks on. You get an overwhelming sensation. It hits you like a bag of bricks. Or a strong arrow. When you know, you know. Right? Not so much. After 38 years and an expired marriage, I don’t see love that way anymore. I’ve placed Cupid right next to Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny.

Love is a series of choices. The first choice is based on many many factors, including chemistry, principles, logic, humor, intelligence, body type, where we are in our lives, what we want/need… the list goes on and on, and the weight of each factor varies depending on the individual. Based on these factors, we either choose to begin the process to love or not. If we decide to enter this process, the action of loving can bring “light switch” moments. The way he looks at you. How hard she makes you laugh. The notes he hides in your purse. The way she makes you feel when you don’t feel anything.

But like an airplane flight, there is turbulence. The fights. The disagreements. The little things that bother you. His socks. Her shopping. You start wondering if you’ve made the right choice. Once you are in doubt, you have to make another choice: to continue to fly with this person or jump out of the plane. This choice is based on a thousand other factors, again depending on the individual and where they are in their journey. If you decide to jump, the scary free fall will either make you stronger (grow) or miserable (depressed). But sooner or later, you’ll find yourself back at the airport waiting to board another plane. Then you hit turbulence. Or maybe there is no turbulence. Maybe you’ve changed your mind about the destination. Either way, another choice. Fly or jump?

Love is making a choice every single day, to either love or not love. That’s it. It’s that simple. Either to continue the process or not. We fall in and out of love. Even in relationships, especially in relationships. This doesn’t mean we don’t love the person. It means we are left with a choice. There is a difference between feeling love for someone (caring about a person) and loving someone (choosing to love that person). You may have love for someone forever. But that doesn’t mean you choose to love that person forever. The choice to love is not a feeling; it is an action. That is why it is so difficult. It requires you to do something, and I’m not just talking about buying flowers. It might mean putting your wants aside. Also, like chemistry, the ability to love is not a constant. It is a variable. It fluctuates, depending on where you’re at in your life and what you’re struggling with. Sometimes it is easy to love. Sometimes it is extremely difficult. But at the end of the day, it’s always a choice.

Although love varies, it also deepens. This means the longer you stay on that flight and embark on the journey together, the more fruit the process with bare. Your investment pays off. Your choices become easier. You not only become stronger as a couple, but also as individuals, assuming the love process is healthy - which means you guys are both doing work. The choice to love creates opportunity to hit notes in life that you could never hit alone, and THIS is what makes your choice worth it.

So, how do you know if it’s love? That is not the question to ask. The question is: Do you choose to love this person or not? Right now. Not tomorrow. Today. Make a choice. Yes or no. If the answer is yes, love as hard as you can. Love with everything you’ve got (your capacity right now at this point in your life). If the answer is no, promise me one thing.

Let the fall make you stronger.

Dreamt on Saturday, November 10, 2012; 9:59 PM

Above is the picture of our Dragon Nest characters~ Caelum and Terrae. And how are dear Caelum fell for cute Terrae. So Caelum is my Paladin (soon to be Crusader) and Terrae is Dearie's Acrobat (soon to be Windwalker). Both of us play in Westwood Dragon Nest SEA. Abit sad that our guild is kinda dying. But thats all we have. So today, ill dedicate this little cartoon for her~ HOOORAHHH~~

Caelum signing off~

Dreamt on Saturday, August 4, 2012; 6:02 AM

A new Michar Update!!

After So So Long, I decided to finally update this bloggie! Haiz! So guilty of not being able to keep up my consistency of updating blogs despite the fact i got so much tiiimee! So today! I finally decided to get my butt down, and draw a new michar for my DEARY!!! And this time round, i decided to give it a Pastel Pastel feel to it. Not so 3d, and yet not so cartoony. So Here it is! For my dear girl! :D

Love love~ I hope you like this one!

A simply write up on what this pic means: Literally, falling for you under the rainbow :D xD Lame horx but requested by u xP So YAAAY!

Dreamt on Thursday, August 2, 2012; 7:28 AM

What i need

There are a few things I need.
The first thing is that I need an empty grassland,
green, soft, comfortable with an unending piece of blue sky above.
It does not have to be one that is of the hills and mountains.
Could be a cosy garden.
Or a flower in the fields.
So, would you lie with my grassland?
Will you help me pick that flower?

The last thing i need is you.
You and me. Just you, me and us.
Together.
Spending it the way we want it to be.
The way we choose it to be.

Love,
Wee

Dreamt on Friday, July 6, 2012; 12:13 AM

Dreamt on Sunday, February 5, 2012; 6:11 AM

Last day of 2011

To my dearest other half,

As today marks the last day of the year, I wanna tell you some things.
1) THANK YOU
This year has been a wonderful year with you. Despite the many ups

and downs that we have been through and you even felt like giving up,
you still hung on to it :) So, thank you very much for making me a very
happy and satisfied girl. You know, you created so many sweet and fun
memories for me through and through. I don't know about you, but I really
feel that things have gotten better since last year, much much better!
And I really hope that we can create more of such wonderful memories in 2012
and many many more years to come. Thanks for being with me, spiritually,
mentally and physically almost 24/7 of the whole year. Also, thanks for
tolerating my nonsense... I really hope you will forgive me for all those times
I made you upset alright? :) Let this coming year be a new start! :)
Also, thank YOU for playing with me, watching shows with me, attending
Korean lessons with me, going out with me, fulfilling my dreams such as dates along
Orchard looking at Christmas lights, I never thought
could happen. You know it's like creating our very own fairy tale <3
Shows we have watched( KOREAN):
1) MY GIRLFRIEND IS A GUMIHO
2) SECRET GARDEN
3) SUNG KYUN KWAN SCANDAL
4) CITY HUNTER~!

BEST MOVIE:
1) YOU ARE THE APPLE OF MY EYE
OTHER MOVIES:
2) Thor!
3) Pirates of the Carribean
4) Horrible Bosses
5) Sorcerer and the White Snake
6) Real Steel
7) Tin Tin

Anime:
1) Ikoku Mei no Croisse
2) Ao No Exorcist
3) Kaichou Wa Maid Sama
and many more!

Game:
1) RO
2) Dragonica
3) Dragon Nest
4) Buddy Rush

seriously, these are just some of those shows we watch and stuff. there are so many many many many more :) see, we spent alot of time together too this year. so Thank you for your time too <3 and most importantly... I THANK YOU FOR YOU AND YOUR LOVE <3

second thing I wanna say it's:
2) HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU!
you will be ORD-ing soon! really really soon. good job for surviving these 2 years! :) you are gonna have another whole new journey to begin with in your life! So, no matter what you do... Really wish you all the best and wish you happiness ! Smile always! :D Be the sunshine you are all the time! Even if I piss you off at times, don't be too upset k? JIA YOU JIA YOU for 2012! We can do it together MUACKS! May you be successful in all your future endeavours k?

LAST LAST LAST THING BEFORE THIS POST GETS OVERLY LONG!
I LOVE YOU MY DEAR BOYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOADS AND LOADS AND LOADS. so kya!!!!!!!!! EMBRACE THE NEW YEAR WITH A WHOLE NEW OPENESS ! <3
2011 will be memories even though it's over. sweet an

d wonderful memories

새해 복 많이 받으세요!

Dreamt on Saturday, December 31, 2011; 5:53 AM

A Very Wonderful Two Weeks in September and More to Come!

These two weeks have been one of the most amazing weeks that we had together and I believe that there will be many more to come in the near and far future (: Well on my part, everyday was the usual going off to work in the morning and Darling staying at home for MC for 1 more month.

It began on 16th September:D Despite some last minute school issues, we managed to meet up earlier for a movie and have dinner. Our adventure began at Marina Square. It was Darling's first time taking Circle Line to Esplanade stop. Was so worried that he would lose his way. but woots! he found his way eventually :D met him halfway and we made our way up to get tickets for "Horrible Bosses" for a show at 4.20pm. so as we were talking and smiling away. I saw someone really familiar... so i cut in while darling was talking and said that the person looks like his friend ZY. thinking that it's impossible, we continued walking until he turned in front and got the biggest shock of his life. HIS COLONEL AND FRIENDS. uh-oh. Coincidentally, they were having their cohesion day over there-___-.... so Darling panicked and just sneaked away. poor him. he was in a daze for the rest of the time being worried that he would see another group of them. On a brighter note! UNKNOWN DUDE SAW US TOGETHER :D so we walked around .... slack here and there.got popcorn and went in to watch our movie together. Hee. watching movie with Darling never fail to make me feel very blissful xD even if the movie wasn't that good, with him there. it felt good.teehee! Laying my head on his shoulder, leaning against him in the cinema, hugging his arms, looking at his cute face from time to time, laughing at the movie with him... totally enjoyed my time with him ! :D

so after movie, we went off to have dinner at Pasta De Waraku. First time there. That's what i love about us. we are always bringing each other to places for the first time. makes everything so special. so below are the pictures of the food we had. wonderful dinner!

Clam Spaghetti in Clear Soup (Suitable on cold days!)

Smoked Salmon!

Potato Mentai Pizza - Best Pizza I've ever had

At the end of it, even though I insisted that I will pay for the whole day, I failed. Because, they do not accept NETS in the restaurant and I do not have enough cash. so turns out that Darling "won" in the "battle" of who will be paying due to his upper-hand of having a credit card ! RAWR. nevertheless! it was still an awesome dinner and time together. Felt so happy as we took the circle line back home. i was smiling all the way to myself :D

Woots, our next date was on 20th September ! :D this time... i went over to his house after school with the permission to have dinner with darling! how rare is this ? So when I was there, we had an awesome time together alone. HEE!we watched Bad Teacher! even though it was my second time watching the movie, I thoroughly enjoyed it due to the company and the nice storyline.Later on, I also had my favourite Patient Chen visit me on that same day. SIKUing, HCENRFing and trying out something fun. It felt really good. Everything really took my breath away.... Darling is just so hot and sexily awesome. As usual, time passed really quickly.... Coz of my little time constraint, darling made do with it and suggested we went to parkway parade for dinner. Really sweet of him to make everything right again. muacks!so Darling's sister went along too. wakakkaa. we had more varieties of food this way! So, us being us... we had an awesome dinner again at Toby's Dessert Asylum! Here are the pictures!

Darling ordered Beef Lasagna. SO MOUTH-watering.

MY SMOKED SALMON PASTA

and this time....................... HE PAID FOR IT again! i can't believe that i'm losing out to him on this. i really gotta earn more money and fight to pay for the food . RAWR. so yepps! A HAPPY DAY INDEED. i felt so happy thinking about what happened the whole day while on my way home. UBER DUPER HAPPY! without my darling, where would i be? really really love him loads. LOVE YOU MUCH DEAR MUACKS!!!!!

and yepps. everything ended HAPPILY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D even though i cant bear to leave him>.< miss him even before i left.

Many days passed.... and we met again 7 days later! :D this time.... we played Dragon Nest because there was a new patch update! His house was so dusty!!!!!! while i was marking papers, i was sniffing and choking a little here and there. haiyo. coz the room was so empty, we couldn't do much. so we ended up doing nothing much. WOOTS but but but! .... guess where we went for dinner! JU SHIN JUNG KOREAN CHARCOAL BBQ RESTAURANT!. so we took a walk to ECP and ta dah! we reached the restaurant. it's so big there. and it smells of meat =X. my whole brain was like " beef beef beef". teeheee. darling's mind must be like "OMG MY GF IS A GLUTTON!". so yepps. there were many many many many side dishes.... E.g. Mashed potato, anchovies, Kimchi, Tofu, Vege, pickles etc and we had BEEF, SABA FISH and STEAMED EGGs as main. i must say i enjoyed myself thoroughly... eating and eating :D heee. but i'm also very happy that darling was happy that i stayed for dinner! heee. cannot forget the happy look he had on his face! THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH MY DEAR BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MUACKS! so darling's parents paid for the dinner then we went off for a walk to a nearby jetty. wahh. it's my first time walking along ECP at night. the only beach i walked in at night was Bintan and Malaysia . didn't know SG's beach at night would be so nice too. so overall. i enjoyed myself totally for the whole night. didn't want to leave darling >.< but still i had to go......................... and yepps! i went home smiling once again! :D

Yoghurt Ice cream!

BBQ BEEEFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF!

Side-dishes

and soon after that............ 28th of september! DARLING WENT FOR HIS LASIK SURGERY! and his parents asked him to come to my house because his house was too dusty for his eyes to take. so right after school, i packed my bag really fast and went down to Bishan MRT as soon as possible.. Hee. Darling couldn't see well with a newly lasiked eye and an unrecovered cornea transplant eyes. So while I was on my way there i was so worried that he would get lost >.< but kya! He was walking around looking at food restaurants ! LOLOLOL. but he couldn't read my messages. so we managed to meet at the MRT gantry and took the MRT to Serangoon. hee. i cannot describe how happy i was to see him again and again >.< so we went to get popcorn because darling was craving for it. and walked home! wakakaka. came to my house.... we ate some popcorn and peng kueh.. AND then... we watched another movie! "HER HIGHNESS" .. darling brought it here :D . hehehehhe. .it was a funny movie xD and there were so many things to joke about. heheh. and later on, darling stayed for dinner at home!

Those 3 days were just the days that we met up and spent some time together for these two weeks. In between, on nights that we spent our time messaging, msning and skyping each other and DN-ing, we were so so so so so happy every night :D every night ended well and happy such that i was smiling every day and night! Thank you very much for bringing me so much happiness all the time. you are the most wonderful boyfriend in the world. I love you boy!

I hope that in future, we will continue to be this happy forever!! xD muacks .

Loving you always,

Terrae

Dreamt on Saturday, October 1, 2011; 10:34 PM